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Monday, January 1, 2018

Adios, Amigas/Amigos, Thank You For Being My Friend

"I'll write your story," I said.
I meant it.
"I promise I will let the whole world know what you went through."
"Somebody should." --A Gift of Love

Dear Reader, fb Friend, BookOrBust Follower, Writer, Author, Fan, Publisher, Editor, Interviewee, Guest Blogger, and Anyone and Everyone out there reading this blog post, 

Please know that you are near and dear to my heart always, and that I am grateful for your acts of lovingkindness.

It is a new year and I celebrate that.

This new year brings new goals for me and the blessings of renewed spirit, boundless hope, and new-found courage for a bright and merry future, and a different writing path.

A Gift of Love is written.

My promise to my late husband, Ed Sclier, is fulfilled.

For those reasons, and in keeping with my new goals and the new promise I made to Me, the time is come to shut down BookOrBust. 

Feel free to visit, as often as you like to peruse the archives or to scan the photos. Everything will remain for now.

Thank you, again, for being a part of my writing journey. 

I am grateful.

To you and yours, a Happy Healthy Prosperous Joyous 2018!

See you in print,

Linda Della Donna

"...And sometime when I wasn't looking, I got a new life."
Linda Della Donna

Sunday, December 10, 2017

Linda Della Donna Extends Season's Greetings

It's that time of the year, again.

I'm stopping by to wish everyone a very

Merry Christmas,

...and a

All best wishes for a

Happy New Year,


Friday, September 29, 2017

The Presidents Club, FCEtier, aka, Chip Etier - Book Review

by FCEtier

5 Books
Highest Rating

The Presidents Club
by FCEtier
Copyright 2013
Venture Galleries, LLC
1220 Chateau Lane
Hideaway, TX
Kindle Edition: $2.99
Paperback: From $12.99
ISBN: 978-1-937569-41-9

Delightfully readable, masterfully written, and meticulously detailed, "The Presidents Club," by FCEtier, aka, Chip Etier, takes a reader on a wild ride into the world of political conspiracy, assassination, intrigue, mystery and sudden murder, while tempering it with a dash of romance and good ol' boy common sense.

"The Presidents Club" is that gripping, can't-put-it-down, page-turner tale that will keep a reader's eyes blinking in awe and fixed to every word, first page to last.

In "The Presidents Club," FCEtier writes fiercely about John Hixon, a retired G-man who is recovering from wounds after saving the life of billionaire investor Julian Thibaut, and how when Thibaut calls on Hixon again to protect his seven buddies while investigating murder, Hixon responds rising to the occasion testing his talents, intuition, and experience to the max.

In "The Presidents Club," FCEtier introduces brilliantly, seven believable characters in astonishing detail. Each character unique, likeable, well, almost, and leaving a reader with a lasting impression and wondering are these people real?

Each chapter is short, numbered in words, tightly written and succinct, making reading "The Presidents Club," a fast, fun-filled escape from the real world of politics and current events, or is it? Fast paced, a reader must pay attention, FCEtier writes a fast-moving tale with a punch.

A master at describing historical and current events, FCEtier leaves his reader to wonder does he own a crystal ball? FCEtier hits hard, leads a reader to believe one thing, and then suddenly, he twists to a different path creating that oh-no! moment, causing his reader to gasp out loud, What did I just read? and rereading a chapter or two to make sure.

A master word-spinner and brilliant writer, FCEtier's, "The Presidents Club," will find a reader holding tight to his seat and talking out loud to no one in particular from beginning to end. This is the best book I have read in a long time.

For these reasons and more, BookOrBust awards "The Presidents Club" five (5) Books.

Friday, July 7, 2017

Michele Sfakianos, Author Extraordinaire, The Secret of Her Success

Michele Sfakianos
Author Extraordinaire

Meet Michele Sfakianos, Registered Nurse, Award-winning Author, Speaker, and Personal Life Transformation Specialist living in Estero Florida. Her education includes two college degrees (Nursing and Computer Programming) and several certifications (Legal Nursing, Copywriting and Real Estate). 

Recently I caught up with Michele Sfakianos and asked for an interview. BookOrBust extends sincerest gratitude for Michele's time and sage-filled words.

Here's what Sfakianos had to say:

Q: Welcome, Michele Sfakianos. Please share a little about yourself. 

A: I’m a wife, mother and grandmother and I enjoy spending time with my family. In January of this year, I decided to put my real estate license to the test and sell homes in paradise- right here in SW Florida!

Q: Tell us Michele, what books have you written?

My books and programs provide the answers you’ve always wanted to many of life’s difficult “who/what/why/where/when and how-to” questions. My experience as a Registered Nurse, mother and grandmother, along with my extensive training, qualifies me as an expert in my field.

Q: Which book is your favorite?

Q: Why? 

A: Life Skills have fallen by the wayside in the past 10-15 years. Many parents have to work two jobs and don’t get the opportunity to spend a lot of quality time with their children to teach them what they need to know to survive in this day and time, especially when it comes to taking care of themselves and their home. Until you are confronted with taking care of yourself and a home, many people do not realize what is involved. It can be overwhelming to some and totally frustrating to others. Life is meant to be enjoyed. If you equip yourself with the knowledge to take care of the everyday tasks, you will then be able to enjoy other activities. Whether you are moving out for the first time; or going it alone due to divorce or death of a loved one; or starting a family of your own, this information is for you. The material inside will provide a new dimension of potential for you and your family. I’ve put all the cards on the table for you. Ace Your Life, is the “Ace in the hole” that will provide the tools and knowledge, to gain that something, to put you and your family on the pathway of an informed and powerful life.

Q: What inspired you to write your books? What inspires you to write more books?

A: My biggest inspiration for writing several of my books was my daughter. She was a single mother raising a son on her own and I wanted to make sure that I taught her everything she needed to know to, not only help her, but to help her to be able to provide for my grandson. Many parents, like myself, take our actions for granted and do many of the household chores without asking our kids to help so they can learn. That’s why I wrote the books on Life Skills. Knowing that she would one day marry and have a blended family is why I wrote The 4-1-1 on Step-Parenting. I’m constantly looking for gaps in others lives to write books on, to fill those gaps and enrich the lives of others.

Q: What experiences can you share about your role as public speaker? 

A: Being a public speaker has afforded me the opportunity to share the information I’ve written about to help people realize their potential.  I recently spoke to a group on The Power of Focus. The response was overwhelming. It was an eye-opening experience to see that many people didn’t realize how many directions they are being pulled in and that focus was not a priority in their life. The takeaway – “You don’t know what you don’t know”.

Q: Are you available for public speaking events?

A: Yes. I offer customized presentations to fit your individual or team’s needs and budget. I will provide effective team communication and structure that is important for forging relationships and equipping you or your team with the proper attitudes to develop the leader within. I will work through goal setting and communication exercises that will bring cohesiveness and ultimately increase productivity due to the positive influences each member will have on the group as a whole.

Q: How would someone find out more about your public speaking events?

A: I can be contacted via email or at my office (239) 454-7700.

Q: Can you describe a typical writing day for you, do you have one?

A: When writing my books, I like to have background noise to keep my thoughts flowing. I like to write for 30-45 minutes at a time and then take a break to clear my head and bring forth new ideas. I do extensive research to make sure that the information I provide is current and accurate. When I find something interesting, I type it out in a document and keep it for future use, whether for the book I’m writing currently or in the future. I like to keep a file on my laptop with these ideas. I don’t write everyday because I like to allow myself to rest to “keep the juices flowing.”

Q: Any advice or tips for readers writing a book of their own?

A: Everyone has a book inside of them. Whether you ever want to write one or not, that’s a personal preference. If you want to write a book, do your research. See if people are interested in your topic. Create a survey, ask family members and friends if they would be interested in a specific topic. If you write on a topic that no one is interested in, you may be writing the book only for yourself!

Q: As a successful author, public speaker, and so much more, please share: what is the secret of your success?

A: Continuous learning is a big part of my success. I’m a student for life. I love to read, learn and grow myself daily.

Q: Anything you'd like to add?

A: My passion is helping others to reach their full potential. Zig Ziglar said: “In order to get what you want in life, you must first help others to get what they want.” My most successful times have been helping others to get exactly what they want out of life. The Personal Coaching that I offer is an integral part of this success.

Contact Info for Michele Sfakianos:




Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Julie Lange Groth, Author - An Interview

Julie Lange Groth

Today we honor Julie Groth, author, wife, and mother. Twenty four years ago Julie experienced the loss of her son. Recently, I had the pleasure of meeting Groth and was deeply impressed at her resilient loving spirit. I requested an interview. So, here it is.
First, to Julie Groth, my sincerest condolences and appreciation for honoring BookOrBust with your sage words.

Next, tell us a little about yourself.

Q: Who you are? 

A: I am someone who has traveled that dark road every mother dreads above all others, the death of a child. As part of my own healing journey, I discovered shamanism and have followed a shamanic path for almost 25 years. I have become an experienced practitioner and teacher and I lead shamanic grief work programs with groups as well as with individuals to bring comfort and healing after a deep loss.

Q: Where do you make your home? 

A: I live with my husband Lou in rural northwest New Jersey.

Q: Do you have pets?

A: We have a cat named Kiva.

Q: Can you tell us about your son.

A: My son Justin was a lovable, freckle-faced 16-year-old with a huge heart and a quirky sense of humor. He died while using nitrous oxide (laughing gas) with friends.

Q: How did you react to the news of his death?

A: When Justin died I was a 46-year-old single mother of three with a mortgage and a failing business. I had dropped him off at school that sunny September morning without a clue that this would be the day that changed everything forever.

That afternoon after school, he and some friends were fooling around huffing from a tank of nitrous oxide that his friend had stowed in the basement of our home and he overdosed. After three days and nights in a coma, he was declared brain dead.

Losing Justin flattened me. Some days it was all I could do to keep breathing. For almost a year I was emotionally disabled, eviscerated by grief, unable to save my business from bankruptcy and incapable of finding new employment. My home went into foreclosure and my car was repossessed, but none of it mattered because Justin was gone.  Meanwhile, my father was dying a slow, brutal death from colon cancer. He was buried on my birthday a year after Justin died.

That year between Justin’s death and my dad’s was a purgatory of sorrow, doubt and confusion. For the first time in my life, I understood how it might be possible for someone to contemplate suicide. I understood how a strong, intelligent, middle-class person could decline into homelessness and hopelessness. But it was also a time of deep transformation, and ultimately birthed me into a new life of meaning, growth and joy.

Q: How did you get through those early days?

A: I had no particular spiritual beliefs at the time Justin died. I saw myself as an agnostic, someone who didn’t pretend to know the source or purpose of creation. But from the moment Justin passed, I began to sense larger, loving forces operating in my life. In my moments of greatest despair, I felt invisible hands holding me up, and when I was destitute, providence intervened with just what I needed, whenever I needed it. I came to think of this as grace, the only word I could think of to describe being held in the loving arms of a power far greater than myself.

Synchronicity brought me many unexpected gifts and surprises during those first few years, and one of them was a new friend who told me about shamanism and taught me how to connect with the spiritual realms during a type of drumming meditation called journeying. Not long after meeting her, I began my formal training with the Foundation for Shamanic Studies. What I learned and experienced was such powerful medicine for me as a grieving mother and it helped me heal on many levels.

Q: How do you get through now? Do you ever have those days?

A: It's been 24 years since Justin died and I still miss him every day. I think about who he might have grown up to be, what he would be doing with his life, and how many children he might have. But I also have come to believe that the soul is eternal, that we came into this life together to learn certain things and fulfill certain purposes.  And I feel that in a certain way, we are still working together on our souls' plans.

Q: Tell us about your books. Please name them. What inspired you to write them?

A: My first book was Life Between Falls: A Travelogue Through Grief and the Unexpected,
It's a personal account of my life during three pivotal autumn events: the death of my son Justin, my father's death the following September, and the death of my grandmother one year later on the anniversary of my son's death. During that period my advertising business also went bankrupt and I lost my home to foreclosure.
The book is a travelogue through the rockiest territory of my heart, but it’s also a kind of resurrection story. Time and again my grieving process was mitigated by little miracles, messages and moments of pure transcendence.
A big part of my healing process was writing. Although I had not thought of myself as a writer before, writing somehow helped me get through my darkest moments, and so I kept a journal. While the book is largely based on that journal, it also offers the reader some practical tips for moving through the grieving process without getting stuck in it, based on my own experiences.

By the time the third “fall" arrived, I had become a professional freelance writer and a passionate community activist. All the trappings of my old life had fallen away and a meaningful new life was unfolding for me.
I began writing Life Between Fallabout 10 years after Justin died because I felt my story might bring encouragement to others during their own dark night of the soul.

Shamanism became a powerful avenue of healing for me personally in the years after my son’s death, and it brought me some huge, unexpected breakthroughs along the way. My deep gratitude for these gifts made me to want to share what I learned through my work as a healer and author, and so I wrote my second book, Healing What Grieves You: Four Steps to a Peaceful Heart, as a step-by-step guide through the grieving process using the tools of shamanism.

In my work as a shamanic healer, I noticed that many people sought my help because they were feeling blocked, inexplicably weary, unable to make decisions or move forward in their lives. In many cases, the problem was simply that they were weighed down by unresolved grief from some past loss.

When I work with people who’ve lost a child or spouse, I’ve heard them say things like, "I’ll never be happy again," as if something has been ripped out of them, never to return. They can’t even imagine themselves being able to reclaim joy in their lives. While it’s true that such a loss does change us in fundamental ways, grieving mindfully can also bring comfort, healing and a deeper understanding of life and our purpose in it.

Shamanism presents us with the opportunity to look within ourselves and discover the deeper meaning in what happens to us. As I describe in my book, it can help us gain the will and the strength to begin the healing process, it guides us through the hard work of grieving and it supports us as we regain our balance in life.

In my own spiritual journey through what had seemed unthinkable and unsurvivable, shamanism helped me find my way into a life of newfound meaning, self discovery, fulfillment and happiness. What better way to honor the dead than to live a life of purpose?

Q: Can you talk about any of the methods you share in your book?

A: I think of a major loss as a sacred wound. It changes us in deep ways. Our grief deserves to be honored and attended to on a spiritual level so that we can move through the pain with awareness and intention rather than getting stuck in it.

As part of that spiritual process I recommend creating a sacred space in your home, a special place where you can spend a little time each day attending to your grief, checking in with yourself and opening up to whatever feelings may be bubbling to the surface. Having this dedicated space and time can help you free up more of your day for attending to your life.

You might create a little a "altar" with a candle, some sage or incense, fresh flowers, your journal, and perhaps a small picture or keepsake that reminds you of the loss you are grieving. Some people like to hang a wind chime there or play soothing music when they're in their sacred space. I recommend getting yourself a rattle or hand drum that you can play in a steady rhythm for five to ten minutes at a time when you're feeling unsettled or stirred up. You'll find that it helps you shift from your present emotional upheaval into a calmer, more reflective state that allows you to work with your grief more productively.

Q: One more thing, Julie, how would a reader contact you?

A: My website is You can find more info there about my grief retreats and online programs as well as my books, how to order them, articles I've written, and lots more.

My contact info is there also, including

By email
On Facebook.
I don't usually give my phone number out in articles, but of course if you need to call me, my number is 908-399-9762.

On behalf of BookOrBust and BookOrBust readers, thank you Julie Lange Roth for your inspirational and informative interview. Best wishes for continued success.

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Signs, Butterflies, A Gift of Love

Have you ever noticed signs.

Really, signs are everywhere. They surround us. We have only to open our eyes to see them.

Recently I walked Main Street, snapping photographs of the many different signs I passed along my way when suddenly, a Monarch butterfly, seemingly from out of nowhere, fluttered into my face. That butterfly startled me and for one long city block, that butterfly fluttered along side me.

I took it as a sign.

After Ed died, I was in my backyard when a Monarch butterfly appeared, seemingly from nowhere. I remember it fluttered my face, lit in the palm of my open hand, and stayed there, resting for the longest time. I couldn't help thinking then, as I thought now, it was my beloved Ed paying a visit.

I'm sharing photographs of signs today and a few quotations on signs. I hope they inspire you to pick up your pen and write something.

Here they are:

"I remind myself that not everything is a sign, that some things simply are what they appear to be and should not be analyzed, deconstructed, or forced to bear the burden of metaphor, symbol, omen, or portent." --Diane Schoemperlen, Our Lady of the Lost and Found.

"Beyond the edge of the world there's a space where emptiness and substance neatly overlap, where past and future form a continuous, endless loop. And, hovering about, there are signs no one has ever read, chords no one has ever heard."--Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore.

"When you  know that something's going to happen, you'll start trying to see signs of it approach in just about everything. Always try to remember that most of the things that happen in this world aren't signs. They happen because they happen, and their only real significance lies in normal cause and effect. You'll drive yourself crazy if you start trying to pry the meaning out of every gust of wind or rain squall. I'm not denying that there might actually be a few signs that you won't want to miss. Knowing the difference is the tricky part." --David Eddings, Belgarath the Sorcerer.

"If, instead, you find yourself pitying someone who consistently hurts you or other people, and who actively campaigns for your sympathy, the chances are close to 100 percent that you are dealing with a sociopath." --Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door.

"A soul is always looking for ways to make contact with the living. A butterfly is the easiest form for a soul to slip into. The important thing is to keep an open mind."--Linda Della Donna, A Gift of Love.

See you in print,

Linda Della Donna
Come journal with me;
your book is yet to be.

The E,
My Mighty Muse,
Faithful Friend,
Constant Companion,
and Me.

Monday, June 5, 2017

Jo Linsdell, An Interview

Jo Linsdell, Author/Illustrator

Recently BookOrBust caught up with author/illustrator, Jo Linsdell. Gratefully, BookOrBust got to ask Linsdell a few questions. 

Here's what Linsdell had to say.

Q: Can you share with readers a little about yourself? Where do you live? Perhaps info about your family, too, if you care to share.

A: I'm originally from the UK but moved to Rome, Italy back in 2001. I came here for 3 days and ended up staying. I'm married to an Italian and together we have two sons, a 9 year old and a 5 year old.

When I'm not writing, or illustrating, I work as a graphic designer and create book covers. I'm also the CEO of and organiser of annual Promo Day event at

Q: I see that you have written several books, can you list them here for BookOrBust readers?

A: I've published books in different genres. Italian for Tourists, and a Guide to Weddings in Italy and non fiction guides. Out and About at the Zoo, Fairy May, and The Box, which are children's picture story books. Virtual Book Tours: Effective Online Book Promotion From the Comfort Of Your Own Home, and How To be Twittertastic, which are non fiction reference books, and most recently the serial fiction KOSMOS, The Pendant, Gunpowder, Gladiator, Pyramids, The Soldier, and All That Jazz. The rest of the series will be coming out over the the rest of this year, with a new book being published on the first of every month.

Q: Care to share what prompted you to write your books? Where did you get your ideas?

A: I get ideas from everywhere. Seriously it's almost a problem. I have so many ideas and not enough time to develop them all! 

My Italy guides came about because so many people told me I should write them. I wrote my children's books for my kids. They are an endless font of inspiration. I got the ideas for my non-fiction reference books from the fact that I'm an author and therefore have a good idea about the sort of things fellow authors might want to know, and the fact that I'm also a social media junky. I'm one of those weird people that enjoys the marketing side of things just as much as the creative side. 

I have a huge list of works in progress, and others that I plan to work on in the future. I don't think I'll ever run out of ideas. I add to the list almost daily.

Q: I was delighted to learn that you do your own illustrations. Can you describe your training? Where did you go to school for this? Is your artistic talent as natural to you as your writing talent? Would you recommend to writers learn to do illustrations for their books? If so, any tips or advice on that?

A: I've always been creative. I studied Art and Design in college when I was a teen, but then just did it as a hobby after that. As I tend to have very clear ideas for how I see my books, it just seemed natural to do the illustrations myself. I taught myself how to use Adobe Illustrator by playing around with the program. I'm a very hands on learner. I've since gone on to learn photoshop and other design programs too. I've spent a lot of time studying tutorials and reading articles about illustrating and graphic design. 

If you're going to illustrate your book you need to know how to do it right. It's not enough to just be able to create an image. You also need to know how to format an image and other technical stuff. After-all, you want a professional looking finished product. It's a huge learning curve, but if you have an artistic talent, it could be worth your time and effort.

Q: Are you self-published? Why did you make this choice? Any tips or advice to writers on self-publication, perhaps a recommendation or a favorite publishing house?

A: I knew I wanted to self publish my books from the start. I'm quite a control freak! I also wanted to know as much as possible about the whole process. Like I said before, I'm a hands on learner. 

Over the years I've often considered going the traditional route. As a self publisher I have full control over every aspect but I also need to do all the work. I'm not just talking about the writing, editing, formatting etc... I mean the marketing and publicity side of things too. It's a LOT of work for one person. Even more so, when you've published several books. A traditional publisher has an editing team, a marketing team, etc. 

The reason I haven't yet gone the traditional route is that I know however you publish you still need to do your fair share of the work. So yes, they help, but it's limited. Then there's the fact that you no longer have full control over the project, both on a creative level, and from an administrative point of view. As a self publisher I get to decided when my books are published. With publisher you often have long wait times.

I think the route an author takes depends a lot on what their personal goals are, and the strengths and skills they have. It's different for everyone. Either way you should learn as much as possible about the industry, the publishing process, author branding, and book marketing.

I've published most of my books through Amazon KDP and createspace. The quality is great, and the publishing process is very easy. They are always on time with royalty payments, and have great customer services when you need some help. They also offer competitive pricing (which helps sell more books), and one of the best royalty percentages.

Q: Of all the books you have written, do you have a favorite? Why?

A: That's a tough question. All my books are my babies. It's hard to choose just one. Italian for Tourists was the first book I published and so will always hold a special place in my heart. I think my favourite is probably Out and About at the Zoo though. I wrote it for my son when he was little. It's based on the first time I took him to the zoo. It was also the first children's book I wrote and illustrated.

Q: Finally, what is your favorite book, or author? Do you have one? Why? Why not?

A: I have lots of favorite authors, and books I love. I don't think I could ever pick just one. Authors that inspire me are people like Julia Donaldson (she does the best children's picture story books), Neil Gaiman, JK Rowling, CS Lewis... and then there's authors of adult books like Ethan Cross (he does awesome thrillers), and Susan Hatler, Freya North, and Sophie Kinsella who all write amazing romance. Then there are particular books that have stayed with me even years after reading them like the Diary of Anne Frank, or Angela's Ashes by Frank McCourt. It's too hard to pick just one! 

Q: In closing, what tips or advice on writing or illustrating do you have for a writer?

1) If you write, you are a writer. Be proud of it and stop calling yourself an "aspiring" writer.
2) No first draft is perfect. It's just you getting the idea out of your head and down in words. 
3) No book is for everyone. Not everyone will like your book, and that's OK.
4) Don't be scared to be different. Embrace your personal style and voice. This applies to both writing and illustrating. 

I wish to extend my sincerest thanks Jo Linsdell for taking time for BookOrBust readers and for sharing her amazing talent. We look forward to reading her all her books. 

On a personal note: Jo Linsdell, all best wishes for continued success. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being my friend.